One Small Change = HUGE Improvement in Meeting Dynamics
You’re in a meeting.
You have a lot of items to cover.
You are in charge of the meeting.
You ask a lot of questions like: Do you all agree with this? Is this acceptable to you? Do you like this idea?
You like to be in control of what happens.
People seem to be disengaged or passive.
Guess what? You may be leading your meeting hierarchically. You may want to consider a few tools and skills that will help you be more of a facilitative meeting leader. Here is a way to make one or two small changes to move away from what most are likely calling the “boring” meetings they HAVE to attend.
In the ToP Facilitation Methods course we start off by showing the difference between a hierarchical leader and a facilitative leader. We note the general trend in the last 10-20 years of moving away from an authoritative directive style to a more inclusive and empowering style. The facilitative approach is always searching for ways to explore beyond the usual structures and boundaries. The facilitative leader attempts to draw out the best in individuals and groups.
“It sounds great”, you say, “but how do I do that and still get through all the agenda items?. And you say, “No one seems to want to talk much – it is “like pulling teeth””. We agree with you! Why? Because there has been SO little modeling of a facilitative leadership style and SO much exposure to the hierarchical style, that it is difficult to remember and practice this new, empowering style in leading meetings.
I will share a story with you. As a facilitator I was asked to lead a meeting in a Northern indigenous Manitoba, Canada community and the chief of the community had asked the community members to set the room up in their usual way. The usual way was a long table at the front of the room and the leaders of the community would sit behind these tables. In front of the tables were rows of chairs for the community members to sit facing the leaders table. I was appalled. In my mind I had planned the room set up as a big circle of chairs with no tables. The funny thing was I was so sure my way was right that I simply asked the community members to change the room set-up the way I wanted it to be. Guess what? I was being hierarchical and dominant in making this decision unilaterally. I could tell that the community members were very uncomfortable with my direction for the new room set-up. Luckily, I finally noticed this and was able to change the hierarchical decision that I had just made. I sat down with them to discuss what their needs were. They told me that the community members had never experienced a room set up like this and would likely be very confused and uncomfortable with it.
One more story…
We were invited into a large not-for-profit organization to observe a meeting and then train a subset of this group in meeting skills. There were almost 40 people attending the 45 minute meeting. At one point, the staff who had designed the meeting had shown a marketing video of about 7 minutes. There was no discussion of the video. It was a new video they had produced to promote a program. Immediately after the video they moved onto the next agenda item. It seems the intent of showing the video was to let people know it was available for use now. Here’s what I would have changed:
- Show the beginning and the end of the video (3 minutes). This allows everyone to see and hear the same information. They can watch the full video on their own time.
- Ask them to turn to 2 people not on their current unit or team (to add a depth of perspective) and to take 1 minute each to ask these questions: 1) A scene or phrase they had seen in the video. 2) Reaction to video. 3) One way they might use the video in their team or unit in the future. (3 minutes total)
- Ask for 5 groups to report one way they’d use the video (2 minutes).
That exercise would take 8 minutes instead of 7 minutes! It would engage everyone, take them out of passive information receiving mode, and likely greatly increase future creative uses of the video. (BINGO! Big impact!)
So we invite you to take a chance. Start small in changing your style from less hierarchical to more facilitative. There are few circumstances these days where the group is well served if we allow one person to dominate or influence everyone else and force the rest of us into passive or bored mode. Your job as a leader will be much easier and effective as you come to rely on and trust in the wisdom and ability of your group.